Have you noticed it? That you’ve drawn some extraordinary conclusions about yourself? Conclusions that, looking at them objectively, nine out of ten times turn out to be not completely true or completely false?

Changes are that you haven’t noticed. You see, that’s one of the characteristics of a phantom belief…you automatically assume it is true. Because this conclusion has been drawn on a very young age and thereupon started a life of its own.
The phantom beliefs constitute a large part of the baggage we drag along. And we’re not just carrying around personal phantom beliefs (I’m no good, I’m ugly, I’m stupid, etc) but also social phantom beliefs (you can’t have it all, sickness is a weakness, being angry isn’t spiritual, you have to be the best to win, etc)

As stated before, a phantom belief works almost soundless in the background. And that’s what makes it so tricky, because that’s why you can react automatically to a certain situation and - in the best case scenario – wonder afterwards: “why did I respond that way?”
Up to now I’ve only found one evident medicine for phantom beliefs and automatic pilots: being aware. Living consciously. Being willing to look at your behaviour and thoughts honestly.
You can discover phantom beliefs rather easily by noticing what kind of remarks ‘hit’ you. What remark gets you go up the wall? Take a stroll through your own mind and find out what causes you to feel so outraged. Disentangle your phantom beliefs and start to understand yourself!

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